Any relationship without trust won't work. So both Dee and Chad were not ready for sexual activity. There is no such thing as "choice" when it comes to having a baby. You can have intent--but as we learned with infertility--that's not real choice. Also with accidents, sudden life change, no medical, forced birth--(and on and on) there is no true CHOICE when it comes to what earth, social support, and body decide. Men and Women, who have love and trust should be allowed as much choice (intent) as possible. No one else has any business at all risking having children in this world. Both men and women have to be responsible enough to have every back up measure available. and TRUST!