Human beings are socialized, for more than ten thousand years now, to value pair bonding. We are a social species and breaking societal norms is crucially taboo to us. When we were small tribes every child knew their kin, now we do not. When we were small tribes we were not global. We are now. Serial monogamy works until one is over thirty, but then mature pair bonding, as Fisher has studied, works for us in this new global tribe. This is because no matter how appealing multiple partners is, it breaks down trust, security, child care (admittedly, a village to raise a child would be better) and personal empowerment. Curious to see what happens when patriarchy is smashed.

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