I think some people have it both ways, and most people do not. This will only be solved by work being reimbursed as number of hours in a lifetime plus number of hours in training + skill being seen as equal and fair.

Most men still make more than women, so it's easy enough to see why she could more often fall in love with someone who earns more. 'Women's' jobs still tend to be underpaid and service oriented, maid, clerk, child care. Slowly changing.

As you note, women are often unpaid for these services when they work in the household.