I very much appreciate the amount of thought and work you did on this. I think that it is a complex issue. Men are not accustomed to having to reflect upon their behavior, hence the problem.
However, when smart men we all admire, like NDT and Sagan before him, can learn to examine men and women carefully, there is a huge chance for our species.
For me, domination, equality, and exploitation is a planetary issue, and no one knows more about the connection between “entitlement” and our modern refugee issues than scientists.