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Men’s Maternal Minds
Mother’s Day: How parents can step up and be celebrated on a Hero’s Journey
Mother’s Day is Sunday. We honor mothers on that day, and we should.
However, I want to talk about men and maternity. Men, if they are honest and courageous, have maternal feelings.
Maternal means in ‘ways related to pregnancy’. Men have feelings about pregnancy too. They may not have the same biological hormonal spikes and valleys that women experience, but they certainly do have feelings of love, protection, devotion, sentimentality, bonding, and more as driven by their own hormones including oxytocin and testosterone.
I would argue that the very best potential fathers have all of these feelings in surging and copious quantity. The idea that men should only express an emotion if it is related to anger or outrage is antiquated and ridiculous.
To quest for an outrageous fortune
My husband and I have made many a perilous journey, but none is so full of “the slings and arrows of outrageous fortune” as pregnancy.
That is because, as human beings, life and death is by far the biggest drama of all, and a pregnancy puts everything on the line, especially before the backdrop of an uncertain global crisis that may last a very long time.