Thank you. I love true communication, and welcome reasoned debate.
When writing, I take shortcuts, (the pay is LOW!) and one short cut is to say "men" rather than "some men." I have been on dates with SOME men who keep pushing, pushing, pushing, long after a solid "NO!"
Why? I think it's because we're kissing.
SOME think because we women enjoy kissing and making out, they're expected to push on.
As to what men learn, there are so many programs for boys to learn help, from Paul Kivel, to Stephen Rogers, to Jackson Katz, to the APA call to men, to those in UK, USA, Australia, and elsewhere.
Male help was not there when I was first "kissing," but they certainly exist now for males to learn that they are not "morally corrupt" or that aggression is their only response to frustration.
Many, many courses and classes teach boys, that they are good, deserve better, and can help boys and girls be better overall.
Nature does teach boys and girls to be physical, but our brains and conditioning (classes as above) allow socialization. This can break bad deals that hurt boys and girls.
My brother committed suicide at a very young age when I was small. He was raised in a place where violence to himself, and/or his rival, was an expected recourse to "his girl" finding a new lover.
We don't want violence, or rape, or pushing for aggression as now happens to MANY girls due to SOME men.
Also, masculinity is magnificent, as I write in many of my articles, but the existence of the many rapes and abuses that I, and so many women, endure, still shows that we need to help masculinity be ever MORE magnificent.
We also, as a society, need to know that even as some pills are red, not ALL pills are red. Some are blue.
That is, we all do, indeed suffer under toxic masculinity (red) but can flourish under magnificent Masculinity, (blue) lLso, the patriarchy is NOT men, but a system over men and women that hurts all.
Last but not least, when a man's "rod, manhood, launcher, wee man, etc. etc. etc" has as many negative, derogatory names as a woman's "C word, P word, hole, snatch, etc., we will know we went in the wrong direction. We should worship one another, not put them down.
I sincerely hope you won't feel anger, but talk to every woman who has ever been taken advantage of sexually, and is brave enough to speak with you.