The crucial concept of a better culture is listening, caring and erring on the side of caution. The female date could not know he would keep proceeding despite her hints, (she’s not a mind reader) and He did not politely ask if she wanted to proceed (he’s not a mind reader), and instead, HE pushed for a further sex act. She told her story and did not call it assault. She was trying — and succeeded — to open a dialogue and address consent issues.