Toxic anything is a negative label. Common decency works for males and females. Agree there. But I disagree that woman and men are equally guilty of abuse. Women are socialized to be agreeable, men are socialized to be assertive. Being divisive hurts. Finding what we have in common is good, finding what separates us will forever lead to domineering power struggles. In a relationship with a person, or with a planet, power struggles mean we all lose what we need to cherish most.