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Mastering Your Feelings and Emotions in Time for Valentine’s Day
You can better manage love by understanding emotions and feelings
Passion is an emotion, but love is a feeling
With Valentine’s Day coming up, it’s time to purge yourself of sentimental feelings.
What? I thought Valentine’s Day was the one day of the year we celebrate our sentimental feelings! We collect hearts and flowers. We reach out, with cultural approval, to tell people how we value them. We have a specific day of the year to honor our feelings of having a crush. We can feed our obsessions with overpriced chocolate and cuddly teddy bears and other plush toys. We can finally put on that sexy lingerie. We can dance as if no one is looking.
We can let down our hair.
Sorry, but buying into all that sentimental freedom is going to injure some ardor and break some hearts. It all has to do with the difference between emotions and feelings. Our feelings are tied to our expectations like a heart charm chain on a teddy bear.
If you already know your emotions and feelings well, you have less susceptibility to the more dangerous Cupid’s darts. But if you are still learning, (like most of us) read on.