When passionately kissing some guy, we women are OFTEN expected to read his mind. When a hint is dropped "I'm tired" how are we supposed to know he is Not going to move forward sexually unless we read his mind? Also, expecting all women to have a high level of confidence to be direct suggests that only non confident (the most vulnerable women) deserve to be raped.

Yes, we all need to be clear, but men as well as women need to be VERY clear they are going to go ahead and ignore signals.